Whenever my birthday approaches I always reflect on what I have done in the past year. As I’m getting closer to turning 30 (yikes!), more and more I think about what I did or didn’t do, what I should have done, and what others are doing that I didn’t do.
So looking back, I had a year of ups and downs, moments of pure happiness, but also not so good ones. But more than anything last year was a year of learning. Learning about me, about others and how to deal with situations I avoided before.
So, what have I learnt?
People come and go.
As you get older you realise that you’ll see people coming and leaving your life, and that’s ok. This past year I had a few people lovely people that came into my life but also had a few that left. Some for pure choice, others because of circumstances of life, and others because you simply didn’t keep in touch with each other. As much sad as it might seem, it’s ok. You only need the people in your life that want to be there and actually give you something valuable – no negativity!
Put your own happiness above others for once.
I’m very to blame for this. I’m a people’s pleaser – when I like them! And for too long I tried to keep others happy even though it was damaging my own happiness. Sometimes, no matter how much you love the other person, you have to put yourself and your own happiness first.
Love yourself before loving others.
We’ve all heard of the “no one will love you if you don’t love yourself”. Though it might seem a bit harsh, I agree. There’s nothing better than self-love. If you can’t appreciate yourself, know what you are worth, how do you think others will? We’ll only end up in the wrong relationship, wrong job, wrong friendships because we think we can’t do better. Guess what?
Accept love from others.
Another thing I was so bad at, and I’m still learning. Accept the love you receive. I’m bad at taking compliments from guys. I always think they’re not really interested in me, I mean am I even that interesting? (Alexa, remember point above!) So whenever things are well, I freak out.
Don’t be afraid of the unknown.
It’s scary. I know. But do you know what? It’s so much fun! I never used to get out of my comfort zone. I was scared. Scared things wouldn’t go as I wanted or expected. But then one day I just thought, why not? I wanted change in my life, how am I going to change if I can’t even get out of my comfort zone? And girls and boys, it was the best thing I could have tried. I went on dates last year. I spoke to people I didn’t know in a party (I’m always the timid one in the corner). I finally bought a car and lost my fear of hill stops.
Life gets so much better when you try things you were comfortable with. And you know what? You learn what works and doesn’t work for you!
So here we go. Looking back a year, I’m so much better, I’ve learnt so much and I’m super looking forward to learning and growing more on my last years before my life is over and I turn 30 (just joking! but am I!?)